Agree. It’s a choice. Therapy can be both a unique context and one in which our ways of interacting with the world come into focus. It’s the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything. (The idea is simplistic and reductionist but can still be useful: when an issue develops with a therapist, it’s likely not the only place that issue is coming up.)

If the way we interact with our world and everyone in it brings us so much misery (a thing Sarah has said often) it’s worth examining in the safety of therapy.

You don’t owe the counsellor anything and it sure would be nice to have access to a competent professional who was ready to see you on time in the right room. But oh my goodness if you have that much contempt for everyone’s imperfections (including your own) of course it gets in the way of having the kind of connections that make life feel fuller and happier.