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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
The thing is OP does have a right to talk to him though I don't think it's helpful to talk at all. I would say just because you block someone it doesn't take away their right to talk to you if the blocking was unfair. Now if it was more like he had told her he was done for real and hadn't sent her mixed signals afterwards, and if he had asked her to not bring up the topic of the relationship, she would not really have a right to talk to him about fixing the relationship. But just blocking on its own and an overemotional message about breaking up that he then changes (changes the message), that doesn't remove all her rights. Blocking someone is a cowardly thing and doesn't mean they can have what they wanted to achieve by blocking. Ie. it's not okay to use as a means of control, and you should not give in to said attempt to control you.
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Blocking on multiple platforms is a clear unequivocal message of "leave me alone and don't speak to me". It's setting a strong boundary for the OP to not talk to him. The OP is ignoring that boundary by continuing to contact him via other means where she is not blocked. That is intrusive and is crossing boundaries.
She actually doesn't have the right to continue to harass him, find means to break the boundary and find ways of contacting him EXCEPT for to get the book back. And there are other means for that. She could leave a note on his front door for him to drop off the book in her mailbox.
Sure, blocking is cowardly and immature, but if someone had blocked me somewhere, I wouldn't try to continue to connect and find sneaky ways to get in touch with the person to force them to talk to me.