Thanks. I partly agree on how you suggest I could handle this but thing it´s more applicable to situations with friends or family, and not to the same extent with a therapist. I shouldn´t have to be understanding of her, to excuse her and so on. Of course I excuse minor things that happen along the road but not if there´s a pattern in being less prepared or not having time to go open the door when I ring the door bell or if she hasn´t booked a room where she can find a comfortable chair.
Also, it wasn´t those things only which I mentioned in my first post that made me decide to not continue with her but it was also her therapeutic orientation. She was more CBT orientated and I need more of understanding and validation in what have happened to me, what has lead up to the situation I´m in and so on. As I can´t pay out of my own pocket I can´t choose therapists and it was a coordinator at the counseling center who sent me to this counselor.
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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans
It’s annoying. It is. But people are annoying. The world is annoying. The only thing you control is you. So: do you really want to spend so much of your time being so intensely put out by the fact that someone else is an imperfect human? Is your approach really serving you so well?
Could you find it in yourself to have compassion for this counsellor who can’t find a comfortable room or chair and probably doesn’t get much time between clients? It’s not that they’re entitled to your compassion, it’s that it would likely be helpful, maybe even therapeutic, for you to develop the reflex of being more generous in attributing motives and explanations for other people’s relatively benign behaviours. Like every time you feel slighted, you could see if there’s another way to look at the situation, one that is kind to everyone involved.
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