Thanks. Firstly, I´ve already answered you about my diagnoses and the diagnosing I´ve gone through at the mental health care facility I visited up until last autumn. But as you point to that again I can tell you that I went through a full neuropsychiatric evaluation and they didn´t find any sign of autism, ADHD, ADD or any other neuropsychiatric condition.

I was also screened for personality disorders and there wasn´t any signs of such an disorder. I don´t know what diagnosis you keep referring to or think I have but I don´t have any other diagnoses than depression and anxiety.

I´ve told all those people I´ve seen that I have difficulties with relationships that most probably comes from me being rather lonely and left out in school as a child. But that´s not a diagnosis per se and within our public health care they don´t "treat" such conditions unless they can see severe trauma, then they offer you a trauma treatment.

I totally agree that a therapist should address things like why I didn´t like my previous counsellor, what happened in that relationship, what went wrong and so on.

One of the first things I mentioned to this counselor was an example of me being upset if the counselor/therapist is like ten minutes late and how my reactions are similar to those "outside the therapy room". That we need to look into patterns and so on.

She more or less didn´t seem to understand what I meant and surely she didn´t acknowledge what I said to include that as an important part of therapy. I´ve seen this many times before, that our less qualified counselors don´t have the skills to work on this level.

They can meet the clients in simplier talks about things that have happened and to vent, but not in how to change patterns, to see where those patterns come from and so on.

I can say that as I´ve seen several counselors now and every time something came up, like the therapist being late, the therapist saying something hurtful and similar some of them perhaps said they were sorry but they never worked on the relationship and tried to interpret or help me understand my reactions. I asked for exactly this with the counselor I saw for more than two years and nothing came out of that.

Yes, I agree I can ask myself if there might be other reasons for this counselor to not open the door when I rang her doorbell once or why she hadn´t prepared our room until I was already at the facility.

But on an emotional level I still feel let down, not important and I also feel insecure about how the counselor feel about me. It had been another thing if I understood this counselor has the knowledge to explore such issues with me but she didn´t at all acknowledge those things happening and didn´t seem to reflect on how them had affected me.

Again, I´ve seen this many times and I also told this counselor in an earlier meeting that it´s not just simply an excuse I´m after but to work on what happened. Nothing came out of that as she isn´t licensed and I´m rather sure she can´t work on that deeper level.