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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
Hi, yes you’re right the reference to Gotham is exactly that - friends responding in a crisis.
The 2nd point he describes himself as a religious leader, and does make it clear that is the big difference in how he relates to people. I personally think people who are friends/contacts are aware of the pastoral care type nature of relationship so yes it’s very different to what most of us would experience.
Glad you find the article helpful, for me the main takeaway is to lower my expectations and not invest more time or energy in the relationship. So for me that’s not being the one to text again when it was already clear the person wasn’t going to answer.
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Thanks much for the clarification. And yeah, so in my case the problem with that friend was that I was committed to some things (long story) because she seemed to need the help. She really pretended that she did care and so when she would not respond it was very disorienting too. I couldn't simply have decided oh okay I'll just not invest more time and energy. Really a long story though. The point is that I would've had to see what was going on much earlier, at that point it was going to be very hard to deal with it either way.