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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
Thanks much for the clarification. And yeah, so in my case the problem with that friend was that I was committed to some things (long story) because she seemed to need the help. She really pretended that she did care and so when she would not respond it was very disorienting too. I couldn't simply have decided oh okay I'll just not invest more time and energy. Really a long story though. The point is that I would've had to see what was going on much earlier, at that point it was going to be very hard to deal with it either way.
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Yes I understand, sometimes it’s difficult, and one can feel enmeshed with a person/situation. Sometimes a person can seem like they care more than they do, and sometimes I think they may actually care but just not be consistent/prioritise others. I think the article I linked is right in that some people are just too self absorbed to prioritise others. It’s hard to accept that if you really do like a person, but they may not be capable of a consistent reciprocal relationship.
Sometimes maybe the friendship can persevere but with your expectations lowered understanding this person’s limitations.