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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
Yes I understand, sometimes it’s difficult, and one can feel enmeshed with a person/situation. Sometimes a person can seem like they care more than they do, and sometimes I think they may actually care but just not be consistent/prioritise others. I think the article I linked is right in that some people are just too self absorbed to prioritise others. It’s hard to accept that if you really do like a person, but they may not be capable of a consistent reciprocal relationship.
Sometimes maybe the friendship can persevere but with your expectations lowered understanding this person’s limitations.
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It kinda was more complex than that in my case. She was originally attentive, and then that stopped. And she started pretending it instead to get stuff out of me. It was impossible for me to see past her faking it like that. Because of how it originally was a good friendship in my mind.
Btw you mentioned here, that sometimes they may actually care yet not prioritise. To me the two are mutually exclusive....if you care, you prioritise, if you prioritise, you care. If someone is self-absorbed, then by definition they cannot care about others nor prioritise others.