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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
It kinda was more complex than that in my case. She was originally attentive, and then that stopped. And she started pretending it instead to get stuff out of me. It was impossible for me to see past her faking it like that. Because of how it originally was a good friendship in my mind.
Btw you mentioned here, that sometimes they may actually care yet not prioritise. To me the two are mutually exclusive....if you care, you prioritise, if you prioritise, you care. If someone is self-absorbed, then by definition they cannot care about others nor prioritise others.
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Oh I see, so this person exploited your friendship but it took a while for you to see what she was doing? Are you still in touch with her?
Yes as Eskie says sometimes people prioritise above friendship because of valid reasons - yet they still care. I would also say some people may not have such important reasons as a sick animal or relative - they may be just generally self absorbed or badly organised, I’ve known this too, it’s just how they are and yes they may well still care. Like the article says do they show up in a crisis? If so that may be a friendship to maintain on the periphery but not invest too much time in.