I agree it's not fair, although I tend to associate fault when I'm triggered less with the person who triggered me and more with whoever caused me to develop a trigger in the first place. So I guess in that way, I don't really resent the therapist if I have to pay to resolve something that is about me and my issues rather than some fundamental mistake on her part. Or at least, my resentment isn't directed at her so much as the entire circumstance of having to pay to fix something someone else (not the therapist) broke.

Of course, I get the impression therapists are prone to forgetting that sometimes they actually are in the wrong even if it involves a trigger (which by its nature involves overreacting and being irrational). I mostly mean when a therapist fails to think before spewing at the client something that half a second of reflection would have told them they should avoid.

I have doubts it occurs to the average therapist that a rupture can occur without it being about the client's issues at all. Sometimes my therapist says dumb things anyone would find offensive but she acts like my perception is the problem. Maybe when you deal with triggered people all day, you forget that you are capable of being ignorant, rude, or otherwise offensive. Idk. But it's frustrating.

Sounds like the second circumstance is what happened here and that sucks.