I totally agree. When I was younger- teens and twenties, it was how I connected to others. We were all struggling and spent a lot of time socializing. We bonded by complaining. Misery loves company?

Now that I'm middle aged and more settled in life, it just sounds like complaining. Everybody is busy and tired and they don't want to hear it. Especially so if they have kids

I'm actually working through a process now to think more about how I communicate with others. Less information, less oversharing, less negative talk, no putting myself down. Hopefully it leads to better things.