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Old Mar 31, 2022, 12:38 AM
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I was going to say ok I'm not going to argue with you, but I changed my mind. I'm not saying you didn't feel uncomfortable. What I am saying is there's an undercurrent of preoccupation with the idea of a therapist being concerned about you that comes off as if that's your goal. The weight loss stuff comes off like you're "accidentally on purpose" creating a scenario where you are in need of protection/saving/rescue by your therapists. It's not really a stretch to suggest you have some sort of fantasy or phantasy of them saving you from yourself.

You do the same thing with your meds. You take more than you're supposed to then act like you didn't intend them to be concerned when you inform them of it. You put yourself in the sick role and seem preoccupied with them being in a caretaking role.

Basically, what you state you feel and do appears inconsistent with other statements as well as your behavior and what you voluntarily choose to discuss in therapy. Obviously I can't have the whole picture, but this much can be gleaned from your dear t and in session posts.

ETA - No judgement or shaming is intended by me in what I've written. It's hardly unusual for a client to want their therapist to be concerned about them, or to claim they don't want the therapist to know about their self destructive behavior when that's actually exactly what they want. It's hardly surprising given the taboo against so-called "attention seeking."
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