Received some devastating news this evening. My cousin tried Only just found out because my aunt insisted on telling me herself.

When someone says they feel like the stuffing has been knocked out of them, now I know what it means. I'm usually able to find words for most situations but this has left me unable to.

However, my mother has taken a dim view of her sister's attitude, feeling that she should have been entrusted with telling other family members like my brother and me sooner. She's deeply hurt and told my aunt how she felt.

How do I tell my mother her opinion is not the main issue here. Just another example of her narcissism. It's my cousin's welfare and why she felt she could no longer cope.

Any advice on handling this difficult situation greatly appreciated. By that I mean my cousin's actions not my mother's behaviour.