x and y met and spent about 3 weeks together (after knowing each other for a few weeks first). x fairly much moved in with y.

Then the long distance thing. Daily emails. Couple hours of discussion on the phone about every second or third day.

x went to visit y for about 3 weeks (after 6 months of long distance). Problems emerged (which was only to be expected, of course).

x went home. y was busy... traveling around... communication wasn't what it used to be.

then y tells x that y has been on a few dates recently.

x and y are 'just happening' to be going to the same place for 9 months. not in order to be with each other, but both independently planning on being there. both x and y knew this from the time that x went to visit y.

the thing is... there wasn't explicit commitment to not date other people (at least, this is what y says in hindsight, so lets go with that).

y didn't date other people until after the time that x came to visit. y seemed to think that the relationship had just 'petered out' and hence didn't want to 'presume' anything in telling x that y had been dating other people.

now... my culture doesn't have a 'dating culture' the way that the US does. i'll admit that I don't really understand it. x isn't prepared to be in a relationship with a person who is open to dating other people. x thinks that if a person is open to dating other people then a person hasn't made the commitment to be in a relationship. would y have gone out on dates with other people when x was visiting? no. so why is it okay after that all of a sudden?

x is concerned that y might want to start a relationship while they are in the same place for 9 months. and then when x and y part ways and things go back to being long distance that y will start dating other people again...

is it that x doesn't understand dating culture...
or is it that y doesn't want to commit to x and thus x needs to accept that and move on?
(and ensure that nothing starts up while they are in the same place together because y has made it abundently clear that y is not prepared to commit to having a faithful relationship with x)