Hey HaveHope, I'm so sorry it's stressful like this for you now. Hope it will work out for you two. I have a couple of thoughts that might help:

- If he doesn't feel ready to talk about his feelings and thoughts, don't push him, because it could come out very negative then if he hasn't processed them yet, like it did in this case. It works like that for me too, I know that much from experience. I can only share when I am ready and have processed enough so it is not raw and overly negative emotions.

- What could he do for you to get to feel better about the insults? Some way to undo their effect? A deeper apology? Anything else? If you can figure this out, could you tell him what you'd like him to do?

- Maybe he also got hurt by the argument, but if he doesn't want to bring up hurt feelings on his own, you could still tell him you are sorry too about all of it. Especially if he's willing to try and do what you think would help for you to feel better about it. But of course you could say it anyway, because he did apologise too, even if it will need more repair for your hurt feelings. If you did already apologise, then forget this suggestion of course, I'm only saying it because it might help with moving forward for the both of you. He might be able to hear you better too then.