I want to say first, I don't intend to hurt you or judge you. I'm only getting your half of the conflict so I'm not picking a side or anything, I'm trying to be supportive and help you with perspective.

I think he has a right to feel hurt, even though you believe you said nothing hurtful. I don't think you said anything hurtful, but I wasn't the other person in the conversation. I also think you would be really offended if he thought your feelings were wrong or unwarranted. Be kind and let him identify his feelings as hurt. Be patient until he can better identify what hurt actually means to him. He may be walking on eggshells too, mixed with some fear and worry about your health and feelings, just like you. But he isn't you, so he has to deal with his stuff in the best way for him. It's OK to be different in how you process things. (My first thought though, when does anything a man does make sense? I think men often think that about women.)

I've had some success in taking smaller steps in healing from emotional trauma. It's not the easiest or fastest journey, but at least it's progress. I wish you the best.