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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Thank you for giving perspective.
I really don’t see how he could have been hurt by anything I said though. I didn’t sling any insults, like he did towards me. He’s even said who would deal with someone like me, given my condition. Very hurtful and I said nothing of the kind in return. I’m nothing but kind to him, and when he’s being hurtful, at this stage I refuse to sling insults back at him.
To me it feels like it was his way of taking the attention away from HIS hurtful words and making ME the villain instead. That’s my own perception anyhow, and I just realized it right now.
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That's very hurtful, yes. I think a simple apology would not be enough for me either to move on from that. What I would need (but I'm not you), would be: being told in a sincere way that they didn't actually mean that, that it was said only in anger in the moment, and then a lot of positive gestures to make up for it and a promise to never say that again (and actually keeping the promise).
As far as his side. Only he can know what felt hurtful to him, you can ask him about that though, I mean if he's prepared to talk about it.