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Old Apr 02, 2022, 05:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Etcetera1 View Post
That's very hurtful, yes. I think a simple apology would not be enough for me either to move on from that. What I would need (but I'm not you), would be: being told in a sincere way that they didn't actually mean that, that it was said only in anger in the moment, and then a lot of positive gestures to make up for it and a promise to never say that again (and actually keeping the promise).

As far as his side. Only he can know what felt hurtful to him, you can ask him about that though, I mean if he's prepared to talk about it.
Thank you so much for validating my feelings. Yes, an apology does not fly entirely or fully resolve it. I will bring it up to him at another time, when the time is right. But yeah, that comment made me feel as though no other man would ever want me, which was his intention, I do believe. He used my condition as a weapon against me. Now that I’m focused on that, I’m even more hurt…. Insulted and livid.
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