Isn’t it just a normal course of life, people could get sick and become incapacitated at any given time. Mentally or physically or both! No one plan for that but it could happen to anyone. When people get married, they have to kind of predict that their spouse might get sick at any time. If the person isn’t willing to put up with this, then they should probably not get married.

I’d discuss with him how he sees marriage? Just having fun? I think strength of marriage could be measured by how people deal with difficulties that might arise, in particular health problems . He is not being a strong partner at the moment.

Now what’s he saying “it’s not normal”. Duh. Well of course having auditory hallucinations is not in a norm! Does anyone think it is? He is full of it. You aren’t the same person, well no you aren’t! You got sick! He doesn’t know people get sick? And saying no one would put up with you, is he saying that all people dump their spouses when they get sick?

I’d not walk on egg shells. Nope. In fact I’d be direct and blunt with him about expectations of married life. Work, finances and health problems are all common stresses. If he can’t handle it, he might be better off single!

Now Id also sit down and talk with him about how you two can go forward so you don’t have to freak out every time one of you or both are sick and can’t work. There are steps people can and should take to avoid falling into a hole every time something goes sideways. As we get older we simply can’t afford to live care free with no safety net. It seems like your husband just wants to be care free.

I’d not avoid difficult conversations. Pretending things are great and avoiding upsetting him isn’t the way to go forward. Your goal now should be how to improve your health and how to manage job situations (new job, part time job, unemployment etc). You can’t afford focusing on how to keep your husband stress free. He is a grown man and he should manage his stress. Of course he could share with you that he is stressed but insulting you isn’t the way to go.