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Originally Posted by eskielover
I recognized anger in myself but not the other emotions. When given the list, I recognized that those other words were also emotions I was experiencing also. This whole thing started one day when my T asked me how I was feeling & all I could say was "UGH!!!!" She gave me a 5 page list of words & asked me to write down the ones I was feeling.....I wrote down 2 pages of the words that I was experiencing.
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Thanks a lot for the details. So just to clarify you were instantly able to write down all the words for 2 pages? Like you'd been feeling a lot of emotions already, they just were unrecognised and unnamed and unprocessed?
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Thing was, I didn't have a bunch of situations. I had just moved 2100 miles away from my bad marriage & was sorting out who I was after 33 years in that marriage & all the financial damage he had done to my life (& was & is still doing even after my divorce) The only other thing I was recovering from a trauma that happened just before I left but it was over & done with.
I was finally living alone on my little farm in the country so I had lots of time to analyze the emotions once I found the words to describe them. They were kinda hidden inside until the words unlocked the door for me to understand what had been inside for so long. It helped me also in the long run, realize some of the emotions I experienced growing up & hadn't even known what was actually bothering me as a kid. It helped me understand myself so much better. I was doing so much healing & understanding myself once I was in my peaceful living conditions, removed from what was still causing anger & frustration but being 2100 miles away I could distance well from it & deal with those emotions only when I had to deal with the issues.
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That makes sense, by situations I meant anything that's happened, even inside recalled memories.
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Also now when I feel something affect my peaceful balance in life I can take action to remove or solve the issue that is causing it where before, everything was causing an imbalance & I never knew exactly what was causing me to feel the emotions I was experiencing. Simplifying my life has helped
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I'm glad it's worked well for you. For me I was coming from the other direction, like, not feeling a lot, if I do feel something without having to block it out it feels like I've already got the majority of the work done. I don't take long to sort it out at that point. Though I do have to say that I still don't try to name small nuances, trying to do that hasn't helped me so far. I'm happy with just recognising/identifying it for the given situation, whether that's done verbally or nonverbally.