I don't want to be unsupportive Have Hope and I can see how much he has hurt you. Again. But I think that sometimes, one has to move on. I have been refraining from posting because you clearly want to make things work and you say things have been good for the last 10 months.

To avoid any repeats in the future, I would be very clear re expectations and respect (boundaries). It is *not* okay for him to make you feel so... inferior, inadequate or unlovable and to 'attack' you at your weakest. It doesn't matter what his stress levels are, this is non-negotiable (or ought to be). This is life - we get stressed, we get sick, we struggle BUT you don't treat your partner this way. So, what is HE going to do about it.

I would be very clear about how he intends to change his behaviour and I would not put up with it again. You have given him so many chances. And life is so unpredictable, crap happens. So what? Is this how he will react when things gets tough? Honeymoon period over because he is feeling stress? Not acceptable.