I’d demand he makes serious adjustments to his spendings in order for you take longer leave or eventually take lower paid jobs or work part time. It’s supposed to be in sickness and health.

I’d not tolerate my spouse being lazy or not following proper treatment ( by licensed MDs). But I’d not force him to hurry up back to work in this condition. Well my husband wouldn’t be able to work his job hearing voices anyways. But that’s besides the point

. “Contributing household member” doesn’t mean sick people must hurry up to work when sick. There are other ways to contribute.

What if you were physically seriously unwell or needed surgery? Would you have to hurry up back to work?

Now no one can be expected to be loving at all times or never have an argument. But it seems that this marriage falls apart every time something goes wrong. But things go wrong all the time. Everyone has work and life stress and have family members sick and dying or getting in trouble. He is unprepared for life then if he expects things to go smoothly at all times. One can wish for the kind of life. I don’t know anyone who has no stress or family and health problems.