I think it’s definitely something to address in therapy together. Why things that go smoothly but immediately go downhill after one fight? Why is he not in a better control over things he says? He must know he says very mean things. It’s so uncalled for. Is he sober when he says all that? He needs to think what he says. Stress is no excuse.

I think therapy could maybe help on how to handle stress better and how not to escalate an argument into divorce or break up talk. There got to be some strategies for him and you both as a couple. Everyone has arguments but why is it always so bad. I hope you can have an appointment soon