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Originally Posted by eskielover
I think the anger I was feeling so overshadowed any other feelings I had that I didn't even realize I was or had felt them until I read the list & could identify that the words I read were ones I was feeling or had felt.
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But it was like some great immediate insight when you looked at the list? It instantly started working for you with the emotion words list?
I'm asking because I still find it hard to imagine how those lists help people. I understand they help many people but I can't really imagine how it works for them. Instant recognition and verbalisation of the feelings, and the feeling is not in a vacuum when you named the feeling, but a lot of other emotional context comes up right away? Is that right?
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For me the anger I was experiencing blocked out my knowledge of any other emotion going on because it was so overpowering. You know that saying "so angry I see red"? I thought it was just a saying till I experienced it with an interface I had with my now ex. I did experience fear with the home care person several times but my anger made me fight more than recognize the fear till after the situation was over & I started experiencing depersonalization issues. 15 years I have been away from it all & only some issues crop up but now my mind is finally in a state that solves issues rather than reacts to them in a dysfunctional way. My T was wonderful in integrating my past with my present & letting me know the feelings I had experienced were normal for the circumstances even with my dysfunctional parents & husband
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I'm glad you had a great therapist helping you with all that. I agree it's very important to be able to do all that, integrating the past with the present, and seeing the feelings, reactions as normal. I've had to do all that myself.