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Apr 04, 2022, 10:17 PM
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Originally Posted by VeiledPoet
I do the same then "shut down" when they start asking me questions as if I don't know myself. I blamed it on my brain issues from surgery but didn't know it was a CEN thing.
Shutting down was my safe childhood go-to, but what I (and you?) could do is count to five before talking. Easier said. I tried putting a rubber band on my wrist to "snap me out of it" before talking. I keep telling myself to lift a finger for them to be quit so I can not blab out stuff.
I guess those are my best ideas.
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It's so helpful to read that other people experience this oversharing phenomenon like me.
What does CEN mean? Did you have a frontal lobe injury? I did a long time ago, so it makes me wonder if I need to follow up every few years with a neuropsychologist to test that area.
Like the list here:
I do experience a reduced awareness/insight into social difficulties. So I think my posts here, may be the result of that affect from my TBI injury. And, the difficulty with impulsive oversharing in moments of perceived or real stress with another person. Those are also frontal lobe functions and when the frontal lobe gets injured, the functions is performs are effected. But, ADD? No way.
I definitely need to count to 5 before responding. I could train myself to do that. That is a great suggestion actually. It's easy to learn. I also tried the rubber band on my wrist but got tired of hurting my wrist. Ha.
Yes, shutting down is a safe childhood response to trauma. Sorry that you had to learn that survival technique in your childhood with your adults in your life at that time.
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Originally Posted by VeiledPoet
I just had a thought reading this. Oversharing can also be a self fulfilling prophecy behavior. I share X, you get mad, "I knew it.." type of thing. It's easy to fall into a rabbit hole because of it.
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Another great insight about oversharing. I agree. It can be indicative of the dreaded self-fulfilling prophecy behavior. Definitely. And that's related to low self esteem too, which can contribute to the oversharing triggered response in times of perceived stress with other people.
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