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Originally Posted by pixiedust72
I’ve been feeling really terrible about my therapy session last week and I had therapy again today expecting I would talk about it and I didn’t. At all. So I still feel bad about what happened. I know I should have brought it up but I don’t know why I didn’t.
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You can tell your therapist this exact same thing, that you wanted to bring up something about the therapy but you somehow didn't and you don't know why....maybe it would give you a chance to figure it out.
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I’m debating whether or not therapy is for me because I feel like the main thing I want to work on is self esteem and awareness of my emotions but I feel like my therapist points out my flaws (so I can be aware but still) and doesn’t really acknowledge my emotions when I bring them up. Like if I’m feeling a certain emotion, we’ll try to reframe it or change it when I am really trying to figure out how to feel my feelings. If I wanted to reframe it, why would I come to therapy instead of just avoiding it because there’s the same end result. I’ve pushed down the feeling whether through reframe or avoidance.
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Yeah this is very familiar. The bolded happened so much!!
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I also got a new job where I would be working typical daytime hours and would have to leave early one day a week to be able to keep attending therapy. Is it worth it enough for that when I could just reframe on my own and not have to miss any work or be told something that makes me feel worse about myself?
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Just really sounds like he/she wasn't able to connect to your emotions. I've never found a therapist that really connected to them. Then I figured out that I was going to need to take time anyway to really find my feelings anyway, and that I could do this on my own the best because the usual therapy or other psychology based (e.g. self-help) techniques just would not work for me for that. Just patience, observing myself, reading about psychology and making sense of it for myself, that stuff's what helped me the most. Plus my social worker, she's been nice too.
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I have had some really good sessions with this therapist but I don’t know if this is working for me anymore.
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Again I think you need to tell him/her this. That you had some really good sessions (when? why? how?), but in general you feel like your emotions aren't paid attention to and you regularly get to feel worse in the sessions because your flaws are in focus the most.