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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
Have your emotions leveled off a bit? You expressed how angry you were after the argument and how things have gone back to a little bit more normal. A return to work with some accommodations is positive forward progress too.
I think your point of view and concern about how your husband reacts and treats you in difficult times is very valid. From an outside perspective and not seeing the whole picture, I would hope you made an individual appointment to discuss your feelings. Life isn't always smooth and easy like it was in your 10 month reunited honeymoon phase. How people navigate the rough times is far more important than how the roll along with the easy times. If your husband insists on ignoring the rough times, you are 100% correct that he is a fair weather spouse.
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I would say many men (and some women) deal with emotions differently. The first reaction will often be dismissing of the negative emotion. Especially when it comes to personal matters and personal stresses in relationships. Giving it time, and having a commitment to eventually deal with them when feeling ready and relaxed enough to do this difficult task can help. The important thing is that Have Hope's husband has a commitment to doing so, whenever that may be, with a little time before he can reflect on it properly. If he does not have the commitment for this, that is a problem. At this point if I were in this situation, I would want to clarify with him that he is committed to dealing with this. And that he is aware that the important things just cannot be forever ignored, even if they may seem negative and threatening.