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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Bill, you are correct. He endured my hospitalization, my return to work, and all the stress I endured during my last job, which all came to a breaking point practically for me. At one point, I told him I was feeling suicidal, and we got through that. We've gone through a lot together.
Honestly, I learned that HIS trigger is me forcing him, or seemingly forcing him, to talk about issues when he's not ready or willing to. That's the straw that broke the camel's back on Saturday, but it had not been like that at all for the last many months.
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I only saw this after sending my post. Yeah I agree that seems to make sense.
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Hi, yes, my emotions have leveled off. Even though I am nervous about my performance level at work, I am happy to be returning and at a less stressful level for now.
I do have my own therapy tonight, during which I plan to address Saturday's events.
I don't really think he's a fair weather spouse. I think it's more so that when the pressure builds, and if I seemingly force him to talk about his stress, then he can implode under all the stress, which is what occurred. Of course, there is a very small part of me that wonders if he would leave during or after all the stress is over, based on his comments last Sat in which he said he would leave and not come back.
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I can understand if that's threatening, having had to hear words like that from him. He should also have a commitment to improving on his coping with stress. Getting results would take time, of course, but he would have to start as soon as possible.
Good luck with the counselling tonight!