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Originally Posted by ArmorPlate108
I totally agree. When I was younger- teens and twenties, it was how I connected to others. We were all struggling and spent a lot of time socializing. We bonded by complaining. Misery loves company?
Now that I'm middle aged and more settled in life, it just sounds like complaining. Everybody is busy and tired and they don't want to hear it. Especially so if they have kids 
I'm actually working through a process now to think more about how I communicate with others. Less information, less oversharing, less negative talk, no putting myself down. Hopefully it leads to better things. |
Exactly, I used to complain a lot more when I was in high school and even college a little bit since that's how teens and young adults tend to bond. Now I keep most stuff to myself since I know most people really don't want to hear it and I feel more mature and able to handle my own problems without dumping it on others, I also have less tolerance for others that complain a lot non-stop too. It comes off as immature when it's overdone without any attempts to find a solution, I have a coworker in her 60's that does this. She complains non-stop about our job but refuses to change anything or do anything to make herself happy, she just whines about having to work all day and it just doesn't sit right with me.