I mean, IDK, how/if this applies to you or your situation Etcetera. Maybe it doesn’t.

What I was saying to Pixie is that not everyone has the capacity to do the (amazing) work that Artley described at every session. And that sometimes one just needs validation particularly if one has never been allowed to have one’s feelings.

Not being allowed feelings often sounds like using words like “annoyed” to mean “furious,” or working overtime to understand the other person’s point of view (and not feeling entitled to one’s own). For people socialized as male it more often looks like not being able to express things like sadness or vulnerability.

When you’re in that kind of space sometimes you just need the session to get to the feeling itself. Or have the novel experience of someone just believing you and not arguing with your emotional world.