This is about either unipolar or bipolar depression.

This is both from the pov of the depressed person and from the pov of the person trying to support them (I've been in both places).

The question is:

How do I know the person with either unipolar or bipolar depression is doing their responsibilities in the situation like an alcoholist's responsibility is to get sober and go to AA meetings or whatever helps them to get sober. I can see that more clearly about an alcoholist's responsibilities, but what are the depressed person's responsibilities? So that I am not just spoiling or enabling them?

And the same for myself, how do I know I am doing all my responsibilities to get better if I am depressed, feeling chronically low or negative? How do I know I am not asking for too much from others trying to support me?

Thanks much for any answer.