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Old Apr 06, 2022, 06:46 PM
Etcetera1 Etcetera1 is offline
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
My individual therapy session went OK, but at one point, I told the therapist that I felt like he was on my husband's side because he always gives me my husband's perspective on things. I said I don't feel validated by him when I bring a legitimate concern to the table. My therapist's response was that he's trying to open my perspective up to consider other possibilities and to keep me from maintaining a narrow vision/conclusion.

Bottom line: the way he's approaching my concerns makes me feel invalidated. I brought up legitimate concerns, and he only just gave me other perspectives, rather than saying, yes, that's a concern and you should be concerned. It bothers me.

I know I should find a new therapist, but I don't have the energy right now while I am focused on a new job search. Yes, I am returning to work today, but I don't think this position is right for me, so I am applying again.

Our couples therapy session won't be for two weeks now because the therapist is out of town next week.
Yeah sounds like he's trying to skip/move on from that step too fast about validating your concerns, before moving on to opening up the perspective of the whole situation if that's necessary for a well working and constructive solution
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Have Hope