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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
So I wanted to ask, what do you mean by people not being allowed to have all their feelings?
What about people who just simply don't care to have so many feelings all the time? Comfortable with being detached and dismissing most feelings right away. But then this bites them in the arse eventually : p so they have to focus a bit more on them....That's been me
So I'm just asking have you ever seen any difference between individual people with regard to this? I just always had the sense that this doesn't fit me, the idea of not having been allowed to have all my feelings
Like something really doesn't fit about it and by now I've learned to listen to that sense, that shows me that the concept or idea or statement from standard psychology doesn't entirely fit me. I've learned that trying to ignore that sense would end up with me or a therapist trying to fit the square peg into the round hole
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Etcetera you asked what I meant and then proceeded to say twice that “not being allowed to have feelings” didn’t apply, “didn’t fit” with respect to you. So ok. Taking you at your word. Not trying to convince of anything. (Did not mean to offend.)
I don’t want to hijack and create a side conversation. (Which is why I initially returned to Pixie’s issue.)
But to elaborate super briefly, I’d say that “comfortable being detached/dismissing feelings” is just the grown up version of not having been allowed to have them. (Alas I did not necessarily welcome that particular insight from my therapist with open arms; it was the subject of years of work.)😂