Hmm... How about if I add that in our line of work partners being in the same place at the same time is considered the 'two body problem' (the idea being that it is hard to solve and there might not be an ideal solution). I know a number of couples who are officially apart for 9 months per year. Only it works out to be much more together time than that once you factor in additional holidays and other opportunities to spend a week or so together through the year. Then every few years or so you might get to spend a whole year and a bit together.

Some people won't get involved with another person in a similar line of work precisely because of this, however.

Trouble is that I also know a number of couples who (perhaps given the nature of the job) are happy to have fairly open relationships for the time they aren't together. I wonder if that is what y is thinking... That is something that is non-negotiable for me, however. There could be opportunities for us to spend more time together in the future. That would involve comprimise, however. The point (I think) is that he doesn't seem willing to try. So... When we are in the same place for 9 months I need to keep my resolve. I don't want us to get back together and then for things to fall apart again (him to want to date other people) once we leave. Not negotiable for me. Nope.

Does this sound kind of reasonable?