Yeah it's just like there is so much pressure to go to therapy and stay with it

Because

1) Therapists do not get adequate supervision so they can end up gaslighting clients, whether intentional or not
2) Therapists do not receive objective feedback so they believe their methods always work and don't notice that they aren't actually helping the client
3) Therapy approaches in applied psychology are not evidence based enough and also support gaslighting and making the client go to therapy for years and actually having them end up in a worse place than before

The gaslight happens for example with things like, if the client has a problem it's called a "rupture" that needs to be fixed because the client is required to just "learn to trust" the therapist, if the client wants to stop therapy, it's called premature termination, if the client doesn't agree with some insight of the therapist, it's called defenses and walls and not being vulnerable enough. And there is this overall idea that the client in therapy needs to become so very open and vulnerable and defenseless and emotionally dependent. This forum too is full of threads of clients struggling with emotional dependence when therapy should never be about that, but that also gets called some bull**** like it's maternal or paternal transference and working through childhood trauma. I could go on and on about all the UNPROVEN explanations and theories. Worst is when it comes to active exploitation of clients, sexually or otherwise.

And then when you'd like to leave because you feel worse, you also get told that oh, it's ok for you to feel worse, it's just because this work naturally is going to hurt. Nah!! It's like performing unnecessary and brutal surgery without even ether used as anesthetic, or any refined tools for the surgery, or any in-depth precise knowledge of anatomy back then. Much like in the 1800s or even earlier than the 1800s. It was outright Middle Ages until the 1960s or so, both in psychiatry and psychology.

When it's quackery like that, it's all about the therapists wanting something for their own self-interest and not being willing to recognise that. I've seen that firsthand.

I mean I'm appalled at how much of this seriously dangerous mess is ongoing and I can just hope that this will stop one day and there will be adequate supervision and removal of approaches that are not evidence based and not proven to work.