I, for one, am immensely grateful that I still have access to sit and have a non-evidence-based talk with my therapist. It's been so helpful to just talk about a lifetime's worth of events and experiences and to have my feelings validated. And, yeah, it did hurt to talk about that stuff, but I don't see how it couldn't have. There have been ruptures, but he didn't expect me to just learn to trust him; we worked through whatever the hurt feeling was. We, not just me. He's apologized many times and admitted when he was wrong or didn't understand where I was coming from. I'm always glad that I didn't just walk away. If I wanted to do something more evidence-based, I could have. There are plenty of therapists who do CBT. But my experiences with CBT and a very brief exposure to DBT left me feeling hollow.

I feel bad that you guys have had experiences that left you feeling this way about all therapy. We're definitely all different and what works for me might not work for you. It's okay to feel however you feel and to decide therapy isn't for you.