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Old Apr 07, 2022, 03:27 PM
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I, for one, am immensely grateful that I still have access to sit and have a non-evidence-based talk with my therapist. It's been so helpful to just talk about a lifetime's worth of events and experiences and to have my feelings validated. And, yeah, it did hurt to talk about that stuff, but I don't see how it couldn't have. There have been ruptures, but he didn't expect me to just learn to trust him; we worked through whatever the hurt feeling was. We, not just me. He's apologized many times and admitted when he was wrong or didn't understand where I was coming from. I'm always glad that I didn't just walk away. If I wanted to do something more evidence-based, I could have. There are plenty of therapists who do CBT. But my experiences with CBT and a very brief exposure to DBT left me feeling hollow.

I feel bad that you guys have had experiences that left you feeling this way about all therapy. We're definitely all different and what works for me might not work for you. It's okay to feel however you feel and to decide therapy isn't for you.
Glad you found a therapist that worked for you. I figure this therapist wasn't overly relying on the unproven theories, but more on his sense of people without too much theory based mental experimentation. He just sounds like a normal person doing normal things based on your description and letting you talk alright without trying to over-interpret all of it so much thinking he has the authority for overriding your own understanding of yourself (again using those unproven theories to try and exercise such authority).