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Originally Posted by eskielover
Yes, I figured it out. It was his subtle way of trying to manipulate information, constantly put me on guard instead of feeling OK about messaging with him. Also we had different values. He came across as tolerating them but in reality would throw in subtle put downs for the way I think.
I had initially been willing to connect via messenger because most of that past when I knew him was a black hole in my memory. Turned out that interfacing with him at this point was just subtle conflict masked with niceness. I finally had enough after communicating for awhile & blocked him. Sometimes "subtle" stuff takes a little while to become "obvious". In my past I would just let it go (bad at enforcing the boundaries I had). Not I just stop it & leave people who are like that
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I see so he was like judgmental and disagreeable, passive aggressive?
Can I actually ask about one more thing, when you distanced from him you figured he would try and get the message that you had a problem hence you distanced? But he didn't change anything so you blocked him?