Thanks guys

I'm the one with the personality disorder - schizoid pd, recently diagnosed. I suspect I'm not the only one in my family with a pd, but as far as I know I'm the only one in my closer family with such a diagnosis (though come to think of it my mother dropped her therapists fairly quickly after they all did something unbearable, but that thing has never been specified, so maybe they diagnosed her with a pd and she hated it? Just guessing though).

It might've been high crying come to think of it. She was at my mother's when we had the phone conversation during which she cried, but left to go outside, so yeah, probably she smoked then.

I don't see when she would have the time to see a T. I mean, she could leave the kid in kindergarden longer, but she seems completely resistant to the idea. Like, she wants to do sport at least once a week, so she wants me and my father to take him. I told her I wouldn't be able to generally, and recommended she just let him stay longer in Kindergarden, but she hates the thought. Says it's also about him seeing me. But I just don't want to start working that early and I can't tell my boss "sorry, I'll only work to 3pm" once a week.

She's fine being alone. She's a bit like me, really, just now that she has a kid, being alone isn't really fun anymore, so she hangs out with people more. And demands of people to hang out with her more. Not sure if she is lonely. She has a best friend with several kids of her own, so they spend a lot of time together. I think she just wants us to recreate the bubble we had when we were kids. After the divorce of our parents we were kind of co-dependent for a while. But we're not kids anymore. It's time to find our own paths.

Telling her to see a T seems a bit harsh, right? Or maybe I could phrase it like I can see she is struggeling and maybe it would help? I think I'll just give her my diagnosis and she can research it...? Not a lot on SZPD out there, though. Espacially for relatives of someone with that disorder