Etcetera, thank you for your comment, but I don't really feel in the right place to reply. I'm trying to 'move in' from thinking about my Ex T all the time, (largely unsuccessfully, but I'm getting there slowly) so I am not sure bringing it all back up is helpful for me. I will try and clarify though, that she owned her mistakes. She realised that what had happened wasn't good enough and she apologised. And I decided to try and forgive her.