Firstly, an update of my cousin. She's been to visit my aunt but fell asleep because she can't do it at night. Time for me to check in with my aunt again. Have bought a "thinking of you" card, as already deemed "get well" inappropriate. Even my mother agreed, so she's sending one too. Progress?

Yesterday's visit to my mother followed the usual path. Within ten minutes of arrival, running down my aunt. Still the same subject of the initial silence. Again, I repeated that it was my cousin's son's decision. It's difficult enough to handle without lots of people demanding updates, progress reports, why she did it, etc. My response still the same.

Mother then said that my cousin was not showing any progress. A complete lack of understanding that mental health issues can't be mended overnight. Again I used the analogy that her problem could not be solved with an operation or a plaster cast. I'm having lunch with her next Sunday, as it's Easter here in the UK. Mentioned about visiting my aunt again, but still no progress as my mother cannot get past all the hatred generated in her own mind.

So, little progress to report with my cousin (as expected). Minimal progress with my mother but next time we speak she'll revert to the "me, me" attitude.