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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
Ah I think you ended up editing my post when adding your response for it. 
Anyway, yeah, I see what you mean. How could I convince a depressed person in my life that they need to relax and allow me to invite them to do fun stuff. ?
If they are totally obsessed with security, financial security, and the like, obsessed with trying to get and to keep work but barely being able to do much in practice due to their depression (unipolar, though possibly bipolar II), being scattered all over the place with it and never relaxing and getting offended if being invited to have fun etc. Also yeah with sleep schedule being a mess too.
I also had this idea that they could do creative work because yes they are a creative person too. But that ended up going nowhere too. Maybe if it wasn't work at first....?
But yeah, how could I mention all this in an empathetic, understanding way? |
I can relate to your friend. I too, struggled with low self esteem tied to my inability to make a decent income. I had awful managers who killed my self esteem and talked down to me.
And I worried about people calling me terrible names for enjoying myself while I haven't fixed my financial situation.
So when a friend invited me for a trip to relax, I couldn't relax. And I feel guilty for those times that I was not able to relax with a friend and now my friend is ill and I don't know if we would have a trip again.
You can allow the person know how you care about them and wish you could have some fun memories together. And you want them to be able to relax for a day.
And that it's okay to have one day a week for themselves to not worry. And psychologists actually prescribe it as part of self-care. And if they allow themselves to feel good, it can help improve their mental health.
My job situation improved that I was able to buy art supplies but I still feel guilty about how much it costed, etc.
It is a tricky thing because even when I tried to do some drawings and it doesn't turn out, I feel upset. But I shouldn't because being upset doesn't help. It makes things worse.
But in creativity, I should allow myself to make mistakes because it can produce nice results too.