Therapists talk a lot about the therapeutic “frame.” It seems to me that the physical space itself is part of that frame. The ritual of going to a place and then leaving it, the privacy of the place, the act of sitting with a living breathing human etc.

I think it’s super weird that we have these very specific camera angles of each other. Like we’re out of context. I don’t know what the rest of her room looks like. I don’t even know what the rest of her body looks like.

For now I’m doing good work regardless and I’ve just accepted virtual and stopped asking for anything else because I find the asking exhausting. I also find it much easier not to get attached to this 2D virtual person who sometimes gets pixelated and frozen. Not getting so attached is also less exhausting.

But OMG. It’s totally not the same.