There's a difference between "I feel disrespected when my husband ignores my point of view" and "my husband is disrespectful because he ignores me". One is a statement of fact and the other is a statement of judgement.
It wasn't until my therapist asked me how I would punish someone for the judgement I was making that I realized there was a difference.

I think changing therapists is a good idea. A good therapist will teach you new skills to manage emotions and behaviors. I hope it works out well for you.