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Old Apr 13, 2022, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover View Post
There's a difference between "I feel disrespected when my husband ignores my point of view" and "my husband is disrespectful because he ignores me". One is a statement of fact and the other is a statement of judgement.
It wasn't until my therapist asked me how I would punish someone for the judgement I was making that I realized there was a difference.

I think changing therapists is a good idea. A good therapist will teach you new skills to manage emotions and behaviors. I hope it works out well for you.
Are you implying I need to manage my emotions and behaviors? Or are you saying this more in terms of my husband?

I may have read you incorrectly but I’m almost insulted by this post. I could be reading you wrong. I’ve dealt with an abusive husband - my behaviors are not problematic .. his have been, and he’s been blatantly disrespectful towards me in the past and just recently. I don’t really care for what you’re implying. It sounds like victim blaming. Did you even read my original post detailing his disrespect towards me?
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Last edited by Have Hope; Apr 13, 2022 at 03:17 PM.