I apologize for offending you. That wasn't my intention at all. As a victim of abuse myself, I have been through many therapy sessions. I wasn't implying anything other than there is hope when a good therapist is part of the equation. I think since you aren't getting what you need with your current therapist, a new therapist is an excellent idea. I was sharing a mindset approach that helped me move forward in my own healing from abuse.
As an abuse survivor, I understand the complex emotions of the victim and how it affected my behavior. I've worked very hard to heal from the damage. If I continued to do everything the same way I always did, I would likely still be stuck in a cycle of abuse. I had to change my behaviors so I could get out of the abuse cycle and live a healthier life. I truly only wish you and your husband a happy healthy relationship.