.... Arghh!

Out of all the things I wrote down about the situation, I was surprised at the one you picked which stood out the most for you. That was the least of the issues. We really aren't on the same page at all are we.

It's not your fault you aren't ex-T. I know that. It's my projections of what I want you to be like and my expectations that you will respond to me in the same way she did. It's never going to happen, so why can't I let 'what was' go, and focus on 'what is'?
Maybe I'm getting in my own way so that I don't have to deal with the really tricky stuff. Avoidance tactics.