I can relate to the over-protection and possibly neglect too.

The third degree about where I was going, who I was going with. Time to be home was always set before movie ended and often no negotiation allowed (even though it was a weekend). Lost friends because I couldn't join them.
Sat back and watched while my (younger) brother was allowed out with no questions, no strict deadlines.

The neglect came from her wish to never upset her new husband. No defence of her own children against his unreasonable attitude. Only since I've gone through thirties, forties, fifties and into sixties do I realise how much she wanted to manipulate me into being the same character. Closed mind, subservient but still expected to put up with her every mood and whim.