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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Thank you for saying this. Are you still with the abuser, or did you leave?
My husband had changed all for the better, just up until recently. And now, he's back to being a loving husband. I still have doubts about the relationship at this point, and I feel confused. I am not ready or wanting to leave him right now, but I don't know if he is going to regress again. I assume he will. I am hoping that a better therapist can help me in my plight and confusion.
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It took me 12 years to realize I was being abused. It took 5 more years of "working on things" for me to realize that I deserved to be happier and 4 more years to prepare myself to leave. It turns out all the positive changes I saw were a cover. His true self emerged from time to time but I wrote it off as a bad day. Until it wasn't just a bad day argument.
Here I am 10 years after all that and I'm always going to be in emotional healing mode because there isn't a magic wand to undo the damage.