Was it just you in a session or both?

I think if she is going to be your couple therapist, she’ll see more of what’s going on. She only heard what you shared. It kind of depends what you shared? I am sure many of us on here think you had to end this marriage ling time ago, before it even started. Heck I thought you needed to walk the other way after the first date, just by what you described. But we haven’t met your husband or didn’t see two of you interact or didn’t hear his story. Maybe if she sees more of you together, she’ll not be as adamant that it’s that bad. She just doesn’t know enough details to make any other conclusions

I am sure your husband’s behavior isn’t an isolated incident and if your t has any experience, she’d know that abusers don’t miraculously change in one year time. He had 50 years of these behaviors. Sure maybe people change. But it’s too fast and no way people make this kind if 180 change in one year. It’s more of a gradual progress.

Usually therapists don’t take on couple in actively abusive relationships because couples therapy is not even recommended in abuse situations. Having said that maybe you don’t see it as current abuse. But your t does.

For example if your husband is fed up with something he could find other non-abusive way to address it. He could say I really need XYZ or I’d like you stop XYZ because it effects me or some other wordings. Instead he tells you “no one else will put up with you”. I personally would consider it big time abuse. I am sure your t considers it abusive and deliberately hurtful and humiliating and no way she’s going to sweep under the rug.

I’d not write her off. Your previous t thought your husband hung the moon but this one might see something else. I’d have a couple session and see what’s her take after it.