So you received a list of Al-Anon meetings (these are for family/friends who are worried about someone with a drinking problem. Is she telling you she has a drinking problem and you need to go to these meetings to deal with it? If so, would be quite unusual, as generally the family/friend would be telling a person with a drinking problem to go to AA (which is for the alcoholic). Which are you? Alcoholic or not alcoholic? This list came out of the blue? You've never had a time where you were drunk and lost control of yourself?

What is the reason for unemployment? Are you laid off, furloughed, due to return to work, what is the story there? Are you injured or disabled? Again, the entire story would be needed to see if there is reason for someone to ask you to get a job. Why would you need to be asked to do this? What is your age? All of this figures into the advise you'll get.

What is this "spiritual work" you are doing all day? Is it paid work, meaning is that your job? I don't understand this. In what way are you contributing financially to your household?

Frankly, in the post you wrote and another one, it just sounds like you don't like her very much.